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Being Friends with the Person you spend the most time with – YOU.

Today I wish for all of us to make friends with our own set of aggregates.

In a visualisation of yourself, wish to you that you are well, that you are happy, that you are free from suffering and that you live at ease. Then give yourself a hug.

Being nice to yourself is a step in the right direction towards all that is good.

A’ha, its not all about me!

All about me

As we progress on our spiritual practice we have quite a few a’ha moments. These include the many and varied realisations about: our practice, our friends, our job, the nature of existence and the futility of our existential angst.

After we experience one of these moments of realisations it is common to have that self talk and self congratulation of “I have realised …”. However,,,,, the true realisations are those that are able to be experienced without the filter of perception as we see the true nature of the phenomenon that we are contemplating.

For this reason a true realisation is the furthest thing from “I” or “me” as you can get because you have managed to eliminate all of “you” in the understanding of that phenomenon. Therefore, it is not a matter of “I have realised …” or “now I understand” as that has immediately welcomed the ego dog into the process.

The true realisation is a matter of “so THAT is the nature of that phenomenon!!”. To speak of that understanding is to bring the perception and filter of language. To speak of that realisation in specifics is to bring the ego back and to drive away the realisation.

To hear, to know, to realise.


As the day dawns and the external light brightens the day

Our mind drawn to actions planned and paid

Leaving our spirit to lay in submission to ego

Growing weary as the sun traces its path across the sky

The ego falters and fades as the light

The spirit glows and beams as it pleads

To give the chance to occupy and grow

Take advantage of the weary ego

To practice and perfect the way of compassion

With the basis of wisdom of an intelligent mind

Free from the basis of self and the deception of I

To soar and occupy the realms of all that is, was and will be.



Today as the Sunday sun rises and announces a new day in whichever part of the world you might be in. Take the time to be thankful for whatever that you have.

If you had a place to sleep, give thanks and develop the wish for all people to have a place to sleep.

If you have food, give thanks and develop the wish for all people to have food.

If you have health, give thanks and develop the wish for all people to have health.

If you are happy and free from suffering … well, you know what to do.

When we sit to our worship and our prayers, request not for ourselves but for others that they may be well, may be happy, may be free from suffering and the causes of suffering, and may they live at ease.

Wish this for loved ones, acquaintances, those that we might call enemies, and for all those that are in times of famine, crisis or war.

This is my wish.

Realise the minute to know the immense

The norms of my society and culture emphasise that we must focus on the we and the I to know our place in the world.  The view of us and our view of our opinion on religion, food, books, education, etc and by doing so being able to see that the we is different to the other and that the other is either: interesting and worthy of study, wrong and worthy of educating, or deviant and in need of changing.

However, it is only by looking outside of ourself and to see us with respect to the world and our very small place within it that we can truly see our place as an ant on an elephant.  In this way our ego reduces the we and other to a collective “WE” and in that we way truly see our place in the world and not just our very very small concept of our world.

The Example, The Method, and The Community

Spirit Dog and Ego Hound


The procession towards gaining a pure understanding of the reality of existence while minimising the influence of ego and perception is a task that takes dedication and motivation on behalf of the seeker.  Most seekers start out by realising that, to borrow a line from a fibre advertisement, there is a “better kind of normal”.  This can be due to a large number of individual reasons which prompts the seeker to initiate the search.

The search can be the self inspection/introspection in order to “find oneself” or to shop around the well known, and not so well known, spiritual and religious traditions.  This often brings people back to the teachings of their culture and/or parents or to experiment with more non-traditional teachings.  At this stage the seekers are prime targets for cults and destructive teachings that isolate the seeker from the community for the betterment of the cult or its leaders.

But how do you know when a cult is a cult?  Most belief systems have three elements:  The Example/Teacher, The Method/Teaching, and The Community.

The Example/Teacher.  Is the person that delivered the teaching and showed the efficacy of the teaching as a living example of the effectiveness of the teaching.  There are specific qualities that make for a good teacher – certainly how they live their life is an example.  Their life should not be at odds with their teachings.  They should not be claiming a higher status than that of a teacher or coach for the seeker.  This includes those that claim that they are incarnations of Jesus, Living Buddha’s, the next coming, etc.

The Method/Teaching.  The method/teaching that is espoused should be logical and provide more than just “have faith” by providing a daily practice that provides a base of behaviour that is conducive to spiritual development that is based on service to others, reduction of ego and the stripping of learned behaviours and criticism.  It should not be based on indulgence or damage to self or others.  The teaching is more important than the teacher and the teaching and the behaviour of the teacher will provide the proof of the teaching.

The Community. The Community is the community of seekers that support the journey.  The identification of the community can be difficult in that there is a community of seekers, of teachers, of practitioners and of people outside of the community.  All of them need to work together and be accepting of all and the teaching should provide guidance for those that are outside or critical of the community of seekers.  The key to this guidance is that ultimately we are all connected in some way and therefore to be discriminatory of others is to foster discrimination of self.

The journey of reduction of the Ego Hound to allow the Spirit Dog to thrive is not easy and very threatening to some who value their own perception of “self” in that the journey results in the destruction of what they perceive and value.

Which dog will you feed today?

Loving Kindness

As I sit in contemplation

Ego diminishing and thoughts of loving kindness arise

For my self as separate I wish

May you be well

May you be happy

May you be free from suffering

May you live at ease



For those I love and hold dear

May you be well

May you be happy

May you be free from suffering

May you live at ease

For those that I see and meet with no particular thought

May you be well

May you be happy

May you be free from suffering

May you live at ease

For those that I have falsely developed a fear or thought to despise

May you be well

May you be happy

May you be free from suffering

May you live at ease

For all sentient being in all parts of existence

May you be well

May you be happy

May you be free from suffering

May you live at ease

This is my wish


See the people drowning in a sea of stimulation

Craving, desiring and consuming

Drawing into their being the essence of advertising and confusion of needs and wants

The suffering that is only eased by more of the same

Happiness depending on the external – falsehoods one and all

See the people claiming that their way is the blessed way

To the exclusion of all others

The pain the suffering the torment written on their face and in their being

Those in holy uniforms of segregation and separation

Diversity in unity

See the people focussing on the elimination of those not like them

Those that are all one under God but defying the true teaching, so they say

Those that act not in the way of theirs

Those that follow another teacher, another way, to the same destination

The blasphemy interpreted by the judge of self defiant of true teachings

See the people that realise the essence of truth

See the people that abide with the truth in all things

See the people that live in grace as they realise that truth is universal

See the people that have not created a new awareness

See the people that have eliminated the falsehood of false interpretation

See those that are realised in robes of all colours and styles

See the people that put no value in the external

Universal – Accessed

Good Deeds

Race towards good deeds and God will bring you together

Cat Stevens/Yusuf Islam/


It is amazing how focussing on the inward allows us to realise the external.

For this reason all traditions benefit from meditation in order to give the thoughts initiated by, and that nourish, the Ego Hound to subside.

Breathe in, Breathe out, being aware of each breath deprives the distractive thoughts to fade.

Practice Practice Practice

Even traditions that have mantras, prayers, and utterances provide the opportunity to focus on the meaning and intent of the words by way of meditation.

Next time you utter those lines taught since you were a child – think about what the meaning and intent.

And the “A’ha” will follow.

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